Slow…we need to slow down our actions and our reactions. Many of us are always in a hurry – a hurry to get through our day, across town, the next appointment, this part of our life, this struggle, this moment in time. Rushing doesn’t allow the opportunity for appreciation of NOW. It is in this moment that we build patience (for ourselves and others), strength and resilience. We need to live in the moment and celebrate the present.
Stop…There are many times we need to stop what we are doing, whether it is trying so hard to fit in and be someone we are not, or our hurtful behavior towards others or ourselves, negative self-talk, and disrespect. It is never too late to stop…take responsibility, change our actions and thoughts and start again.
Play…we need to spend more time playing! Get outside, dance in the rain, splash in the puddles, build a fort, make snow angels, climb a tree, find the art of communicating over a board game, sing at the top of our lungs, get lost in our imagination, embrace silliness, be consumed with pure joy and laughter…laugh a lot.
Volume…Turn it up! Speak up, be heard, let your voice count as you stand up for yourself and those that do not have a voice. Turn it down! Learn to listen to that still quiet voice in your head that says “sssshhhh.” Mute…yes this is critical. We can all learn to speak less and listen more. Sometime we just need to shut up and stop our incessant chatter so we can hear the beauty of someone else’s story. Other opinions, views, values and ideas cannot be heard when WE continue to talk.
Rewind…no, we don’t get to rewind and get a re-do. However, there is humility to be gained in reflection. We look back to learn and grow…to change and transform…to find strength and to celebrate. Not always easy, it involves tears, sometimes of joy and sometimes of sorrow. I often play over the same scene in my head not to beat myself up for my mistakes (which is easy to do, tempting and dangerous) but to remember the joy, and the pain that have made me who I am. I am thankful for rewind, it has made me a better person.
Perhaps the most powerful button on our life remote is the Pause button…There is power in the Pause. I wish I would have pressed this button more often. I am working on becoming better at it. Pause before you speak – is what you are about to say kind, helpful or logical? Pause before you act – is what you are about to do or the choice you are about to make a reflection of your core values? Pause before you ask a question – have you though it through, and used your critical thinking skills and commons sense? Pause before you complain – remember to place value on all of your blessings. Pause before you put your feet on the ground each morning – what it is that you are thankful for? What are your hopes for the day? How will you make the world a better place as you put each foot forward? Yes, the pause is a reminder for me that the remote is truly a powerful tool…the holder of the remote holds all control. The choices they make pressing the buttons impact themselves and everyone else around them. I am aware that I am holding the remote, I am not helpless, the batteries are full and the power is in me.